Doing Life with Heike

So here we are – already a few months into 2022 – and how are we doing with this ‘living’ thing?  After nearly two years of international, national, external and internal rollercoaster energies, emotions, situations and constant moving of goal posts – it is time to focus on LIVING.  No more survival mode, or mere existing, but WHOLEHEARTED living.

In our human form we are hard-wired for connection for our growth, developing a sense of self and others, for sharing, feeling, bonding, falling, getting up, exchanging, giving, receiving, being brave and being vulnerable… Connection allows us the platform for experiencing life with all its facets. Yet the trauma, loss, uncertainty, pandemic, isolation and so on, have re-wired lots of us from connection to protection and survival.  Yet when we look at the whole concept that there are only two fundamental vibrations in the world – LOVE and FEAR – and the one we feed is the one we experience, we certainly under-loved, -lived, -laughed  and over-feared, -thought and -suffered.  ENOUGH OF THAT!

So what is this wholehearted living? One definition by Brene Brown is:
“Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion and connection to wake up in the morning and think: No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking: Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”

In short: Have the courage to live life, to be, to embrace self and others with all the flaws, warts and all.  Own your stories, your mistakes, your triumphs, your downfalls and those oh-so-perfect imperfections that make you so uniquely the only one of your kind. 

Make your voice heard, make your presence known, turn up the music, dance wildly, laugh with wild abandon, run barefoot, get out of your head and start connecting – with your inner child and all those others out there that were locked up and kept quiet for way too long.

We do not need permission to LIVE – we simply need to allow it.  We do not have to earn the right to be loved and accepted – we just have to start the party, apply it without reservation to ourselves and it will automatically flow over. 

We also need to do Life together again – love multiplies and grows so much more quickly when exchanged, swapped, added on, shown in, demonstrated – we have to ooze into the world all the goodness and higher vibrations as wholeheartedly and with full intent and presence as possible. 

We need to connect to self, others and our spiritual energy – it can’t get more powerful than that. And, yes, it takes courage, for we have been taught to be silent and invisible and fearful – but let’s shout it from the rooftops – let’s hold hands and roar it into the world – WE choose LOVE – WE choose LIFE.

Let’s just decide to care less about external circumstances and more about the person, the heart, the smiles; being that person that gives the hug, takes the time, does listen, doesn’t give a hoot about the mess or the laundry and is just there with a cup of coffee (or a barrel of wine).  Let’s work it out with laughing about our perceived imperfections as we have a look at our mismatched socks. Let’s live life together.  Cut yourself some slack, have ice-cream for breakfast and cereal for dinner, send your inner critic to the naughty bench and let your inner child run wild.

There is bravery and courage in allowing yourself to just BE – yet that’s life – and it was always meant to be lived and not endured in isolation behind closed doors and wrapped into layers of fear.

Let’s love ourselves and each other back to life…  LOUDLY, MADLY and UNAPOLOGETICALLY AUTHENTIC

To be authentic, we must cultivate the courage to be imperfect – and vulnerable. We have to believe that we are fundamentally worthy of love and acceptance, just as we are, irrespective of what we think we should be or what we assume others expect of us. We are worthy simply because we are here – it’s our birthright. The moment we accept that perfection doesn’t exist, we can take a whole load of pressure off ourselves, practise self-compassion and wholeheartedly extend that to others as well.  So cut yourself some slack and celebrate your perfect imperfection.

There is no better way to invite more lightness, grace, gratitude and joy into our lives than by mindfully practising authenticity. And yes, if that means some feathers decide to get ruffled – that’s fine too – nothing wrong with a new hairstyle every now and then.

so from here onward, let it be about connection and wholehearted living.  Our experience in this world in our ‘meatsuits’ has never been there to be a punishment system, but a playground for growth, learning, love, authenticity, joy, connection… time to join hands, re-connect, create and experience the highest frequency there will ever be – LOVE.